November 22, 2014

Caroline de Maigret on how to be Parisian wherever you are


Hello Lovelies, I recently found this book on Instagram, written by four french women... now how cool is that. Written by Caroline de Maigret and her three best friends —a 39-year-old who loves mannish clothes, jackets, shirts, and pants galore. Karl Lagerfeld co-opted her as one of Chanel’s ambassadors; Lancôme has just asked her to package her mystique into a makeup line. She’s the living epitome of a Frenchwoman living in Paris with her husband (Yarol) and son (Anton).


Author : Caroline de Maigret 
She’s authored one of those delightful snatch-uppable books of the “French secrets” genre: How to Be Parisian Wherever You Are: Love, Style, and Bad Habits (Doubleday), co-written with three of her girlfriends—writer Anne Berest, journalist and screenwriter Audrey Diwan, and movie producer Sophie Mas. It’s a compilation of essays on everything from ignoring fashion, being a french parent, underwear and men and in between. Here are a few fashion essentials:
Jeans, anytime, anywhere, and any way. Take a Parisienne's jeans out of her closet and she feels stark naked.


Basic oversized sunglasses. Every day, even when it's raining, because you always have a reason to wear them: too bright out, a hangover, tears running down your face, a desire to be mysterious...

The very simple, but very expensive T-shirt. You're perfectly happy to give into the most common trends, as long as you can add a mark of luxury. As a result, you spend hours searching for the perfect T-shirt, whose finely woven and slightly transparent thread make it feel like cashmere.



 Sophie MasAnne BerestAudrey Diwan and Caroline De Maigret.
The book is a modern take on the urban legend of the “perfect” Parisian woman we are all so obsessed about.  However this book is more than beauty habits or about diet. This page turner speaks to the inner workings of the authors minds and their experiences.

ON AGING
“Enjoy the face you have today. It’s the one you’ll wish you have 10 years from now.”

“Anticipate, prepare for the future, but never totally correct.”

“In truth, more than wanting to look young—which is but a fleeting illusion—they want above all to become the best possible version of themselves, outside and in, at any age”

“As your face gets messier with age, you hair can get neater, for balance.”


PARENTING LIKE A PARISIENNE
A Parisienne never hires a babysitter who is too pretty, always finding the less attractive one to be far more competent.

She often murmurs, with feigned discomfort, that she's a bit worried that her daughter is 'rather precocious'. It's her way of saying that her child is a genius - or that she takes after her mother.

She often pretends that her child is sick to get her out of dinner parties that will bore her to death. Then she feels guilty and worries that some god will actually make her baby ill to punish her for her lies.



La Ville Lumière
An excerpt from How to Be Parisian Wherever You Are: Love, Style, and Bad Habits

1:00 p.m.: First Date at the Café de Flore

She picks up the menu. Each time, the same thought crosses her mind: In her hands, this is more of a geographical map, an intimate and chaotic path through the jungle of her culinary neuroses, than a restaurant menu. She will have to battle her way without stumbling, and without looking like she’s asking herself too many questions.

Smoked salmon

No, wrong choice. She’ll just end up using the salmon as a pretext for eating all the blinis and crème fraîche. Her greed could end up on her hips.

Does this man sitting across from her realize how difficult it is to be a woman in this city? Probably not. But she doesn’t want to judge him too quickly.

Haricots verts salad

The problem with a first date is that her every gesture will take on a particular meaning. He’s watching her as if he’s filming her, recording her movements forever: the way in which she loses her phone in her large handbag, and that message on her voice mail she can’t help listening to in front of him. He is analyzing her. Disorganized, a tad nervous, compulsively sociable. One day, later on, he will find out that she weighs herself every morning, but for now, he must believe that her figure is simply nature’s gift. Better to choose a real dish, giving him the hackneyed image of a bon vivant and letting him believe that this is her approach to all the great pleasures of life.

Warm duck confit?

Her finger, somewhat nervously, scrawls down several lines on this damned menu. The waiter is coming over, and she knows she will have to come to a decision. And so she figures she will brave the danger with an act of courage. She will choose something adventurous:

“Welsh rarebit,” she says.

She reads out the foreign words so casually you’d think she’d done it a hundred times before. The man opposite her looks up, surprised, and she savors the effect. Of course, she has no idea what she’s just ordered. On the menu, in small print, it says: “a specialty made from cheddar, beer, and toast.” Inwardly she smiles: inedible. No matter, she will talk enough for him not to notice that she’s ignoring her plate. The waiter then turns to the man.

“I’ll have the same, please,” he says.

In a flash, the whole scene crumbles. A sheep, a follower. Suddenly she realizes that his conversation has been peppered with banalities for the past half hour. She now knows she’ll eat two bites, then find a reason to leave before the hour is up. And she will never see him again. 

Adieu.













in search of me


Hello my Lovelies, it has been a while, and I've missed you all. You must be wondering about my blog post title, well I have been craving more alone time than usual and no I'm not depressed. But sometimes life gets complicated, plans and priorities change, and you find yourselves a bit stuck. I have been thinking about where I am going next year and the answer is I don't really know and is that bad, the not knowing. As someone who likes to know exactly where I am going, being lost doesn't feel comfortable to me.

I saw a phrase the other day that went like this " Not All Who Wander Are Lost" , very inspiring but is it true. I feel lost in almost everything I do and I can't seem to shake that feeling... is this what grief is like, after having two major losses in my life in a space of two years. Some say it's not easy having to deal with abandonment, betrayal and death. Sometimes I wonder how I've made it so far, not making sense of all happening around me. However each day is different and my emotions rise and fall. However my determination is to rise above the doubts and fears to find my way through this labyrinth called my life at the moment.








November 01, 2014

trend report: fall embellishments



Hello  my Sweeties...There are some amazing trends this fall from the runways that have translated to street style  and everyone is taking notice. I simply love the age of embellishments that we have entered into and I think it will be around for some time. I have posted here a few of my favorites from the runway and some street style to emphasis the trend happening now. I hope you fall in love with the whimsical way designers are showing this look this season.


This youthful, flirty dress is witty embellishments is by Dolce & Gabbana 2015 Fall/Winter Collection.




Burberry trench coats with studs on the sleeve and this one that has 5,000 feathers, is just stunning.



Alberta Ferretti's Fall /Winter collection has non stop embellishments that makes every woman look swoon-worthy. I adore how she used feathers, sequins, embroidered fabrics and fur in this collection. I am sure you will be thrilled to experiment with your own wardrobe this fall. Have great weekend my lovelies. so sorry I have been neglecting you but I lost my Dad a few months ago. It has been difficult to say the least, but my time was with my family while at the same time coming to grips with the loss of a parent. So despite my absence, I have missed you all and now I will be catching up with my fave blogs this weekend.





Cheers Everyone.



October 06, 2014

Eating like the French.

The French have the lowest obesity rate in Europe despite the rising trend of fast food, on the run or as an afternoon treat; the French are still obnoxiously slender. So why?  French food has been known for its rich sauces, predominately meat dishes, dessert at every meal, multiple courses, and, as Julia Child so elegantly and passionately pointed out, their love of BUTTER.

The French eat better and therefore live better.

Already they live an active lifestyle where sports are in a high value and walking is frequent because most people use public transports.

The French sleep better because of their evening meals. They are therefore in better health and shape and can burn calories and fats more efficiently and then there society is centralised around good eats, something that facilitates healthy meals. 


 From reading, I have derived some basic rules that are key to how the French stay skinny but seem to eat so much. Here goes...

They do not obsess over food:  Even when on diets, they are not as insane as western women about food. They do not keep track of points, or calories, count proteins or fibers, or stress that they have to eat this as opposed to that. They allow themselves treats and do not panic if one day they go totally nuts on an ice cream, they allow their bodies the things it craves and therefore do not get depressed or discouraged.

The French eat what is in season. Yes we live in a world where we can buy strawberries in January but the French make it a point to always serve veggies that are growing at that time period. For one thing; France is still an agricultural state and takes pride in consuming its own produce grown on its own soil and so there is a stronger interest in seasonal products.

Meals are long. I recently read in a French fashion magazine that sitting down for a sandwich should be a 20 minute ordeal. 20 MINUTES! That is what the French consider to be a fast meal? But there is a reason for this, which is not that the French would avoid getting back to work in any way they can. Nope. Food is easier to digest when you are sitting down, chew every bite entirely, and enjoy yourself. The most important thing to the French is to ENJOY the food.



September 20, 2014

Crushing on: Diane Von Furstenberg | Spring Summer 2014



Hello Sweeties, I have been catching up on my fashion shows from the new York fashion week and I must say I have so much respect for Diane Von Frurstenberg. When she first came into the business the critics were negative and nasty. Now look at her, she has proved she has staying power. I love her home decor line  very much and I will posting about that at a later date, but for now, I leave you with her full fashion show of her Spring/Summer collection.

Love you All.




September 19, 2014

happy weekend and chicken avocado soup.



Hello everyone, I am back as promised to end the week off, with a great recipe for a fantastic soup I found on Mama Miss's blog. So if you love avocado and chicken and warm soups, this one is a keeper.


September 17, 2014

new york fashion week recap


Hello my Sweeties, I couldn't resist posting some of the dreamy iconic fashion that was seen at the New York city Fashion week. I am thinking of going next year, I so want to be there, it's like a bucket list thing, so wish me luck. Its good to dream is it not. Well I do owe you all an apology for the absence, as I was dealing with family stuff, I won't get into it now but at a later date. Here is my recap of the insanely glorious Fashion Week, hope you re crushing on some of the same things I love.




Images via  The Citizens of Fashion.



Take Care Sweeties, I'll be back soon I promise.









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